I'm convinced
that when we help our children find healthy ways of dealing with their
feelings, ways that don’t hurt them or anyone else. We’re making our world a
safer, better place - Mr. Rogers
Childhood is
supposed to be a happy time. It is when we are vulnerable to anything that
happens, whether good or bad. That is why every child should receive care and
love from their family, friends, and teachers.
It helps develop
qualities like curiosity and self-confidence. Curiosity is important for the
initiation of learning something. Curious child wants to learn about their
surroundings. Self-confidence is necessary to keep doing the thing that child
starts to learn.
Unfortunately,
some children or I would rather be bold to say most of them, do not get the
conducive environment, love, and care to develop these qualities in their
childhood. Some receive cold treatment from their parents; some even face a
trauma from physical assault and sexual abuse.
It is painful to
talk about these things, but we must address them despite being difficult here.
Almost all
problems start in childhood and haunt us for the rest of our lives. We keep
wondering what is wrong with us. It makes us feel that we are not good enough.
We keep wondering why we react in such ways, why some situations haunt us but
seem normal to others.
What causes
these things to happen?
And if they are
the result of traumatic childhood experiences.
Why our elders
did this to us?
There is a
famous dialogue explaining the cause “ We are victims of victims.” the parents
or people who do such things with children are themselves facing mental
difficulties. Some are unhappy with their jobs, spouse, or their parents.
People who do child abuse in the form of physical assault and sexual abuse are
found to be dealing with these problems themselves. Some might have desires
that are not being addressed and not allowed by society. Children seem to fall
prey to these things as they cannot voice out and rebel like adults.
Does all this
justify these deep wounds we give to our children? Of course not.
What can we do
to prevent and control these things? Once happen, they have long-lasting
impacts.
It isn’t my
past; it is my present - Helena Wilson
Any unpleasant
situation where you lose control leaves a traumatic experience. We are still
determining the difficulty of the situation. The experience itself is a horror
but also leaves an impact on some of us.
Whenever we
experience any sound, image, or similar situation, we start re-experiencing the
incident that occurred in the past, known as a stressful post-traumatic
experience. This becomes a problem in daily life because the person suffering
from it starts avoiding certain areas, sounds, images, etc., limiting activity.
Life cannot be
lived fully like this, and all these problems are managed when the right kind
of help is taken. The help of a psychologist by taking therapy and talking with
friends makes things easier to cope with.
All these things
will make you slowly realize that the incidents will not happen again because
you are not the same person you were in that situation. We become stronger with
time but do not realize it in such situations. Learning that the problems that
happened in the past will not happen again and can be left in the past will
decrease the bitterness and lead you toward a happier life.
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