He who envies
others does not obtain peace of mind - Buddha
Jealousy
is a complex emotion to deal with. It both triggers anger and guilt and
confuses us about our self-worth. You will compare a person’s possessions (
health, wealth, relationships, knowledge) to yours. It will induce the emotion
of being behind in the race of life, decrease your self-confidence, trigger
anger, and finally, may start feeling bad about having all these emotions.
It is all a play
between EGO and instinctual drive. Ego tells you to be a good person, and
instinctual drive asks you to cheat while nobody is watching. This creates a
conflict, and conflicts are never comfortable.
A war is going
on inside, and the only person who will get harmed is you because you are
fighting yourself. It would be best if you tried to resolve most of your
conflicts to live a peaceful life. Here we have to learn the art of letting go.
When you desire
something, you feel a strong urge to get it. We stop thinking about the journey
one has to take to reach it. We also stop thinking about the journey that other
people would have taken and the hard work that person would have put in to
achieve what he has today.
To answer the
emotion of jealousy, you will have to let go of the desire to possess these
things in the immediate future. Then, it would help if you tried to realize the
amount of work required to achieve these things.
In the case of a
loving relationship, you may not get the same person even when you try as much
as you can. In such situations, you should let go of the person of desire and
realize that other similar options should be available.
In saying all
this, I also understand your condition and feelings. Dealing with jealousy will
not be easy for you or the person you are jealous of. It would help if you
understood that is a normal emotion every person on this earth has.
Your ego will
say you are terrible because you are jealous. You have to become compassionate
towards yourself and feel normal. It will make things easier for you.
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